There exists a terrible book called - how to make friends and influence people - i recall hearing that this book has only been outsold by the bible!
now the premise of the book or that which my dad told me (once a firm believer in the theory) was that you need to sweet talk and compliment people in order for them to like you - you stroke their ego and wham you fall into their favor.
Now im not sure i would like people much who would fall for such a shallow trick and having observed suggestive power in practice i formulated a different way of looking at it.
Lowest common denominator:
I usually find that communication tend to become less focused the more people are involved with it. Im a big fan of one on one as it seems energetically the most effective - group discussions invoke too much competition in needing to be heard which sometime limits the potential of the discussion - then again a surprising variable can stimulate allot.
If we were all just real numbers (excluding 1 for illustration purposes) - some numbers could be considered having more suggestive power over others say all those divisible into it
A nr 10 person would have power of influence over a nr 5 and nr 2 - be friendly with other nr 10's considered your equals and may find yourself working for your boss a nr 100
a nr 2 would have friends but no suggestive power
A nr 100 person influence over a Nr 50, 25, 10, 5, 2 etc
Take a motivational speaker say at 500 - he may be a higher than your average person and would have the power to influence over allot of lower numbers - his methods would create the limits of his influence and some higher ranking individuals would simply find him not very motivational at all!
Now if one were to be a complicated individual not really susceptable to the everyday razz matazz of people who play themselves as powerful and should yourself being a Nr 2373 you would have influence say over a seemingly rare nr 791 a fairly eccentric nr 339 and unlucky 113 - creating a particularly interesting crowd to hang out with.
you can be born with a specific number and stay that number your entire life - You could develop your number using a system like the corporate ladder or politics that will create a number for you but can take it away too
you could develop your number by yourself using a course that could promise you the potential of another number but could not guarantee it
Money could buy you a number but you will be perceived as a fraud if you cant fill the shoes of of the number you faking
Glamour could fake you a number too but you would probably only have influence over those who subscribe to that numbers glamour - like the celebrity game
or you could find yourself being a genius who is never understood simply because your number has mutated into a form no-one can identify
a number 100 would be able to conceive a nr 1000 but would struggle getting a grip on a nr 113
makes one think what the the optimal number would be to be
Tracey_Sargent
BT did a little experiment about 3 years ago.. they monitored I believe 5000 calls over a day and they found the most common words used were "I" and "Me". That is why this books has only been outsold by the bible. people like nothing more than to talk about themselves. It fufills our most base needs. I never noticed untill someone pointed it out that in the course of an average converstation we spend more time focusing on what we are going to say next than to what the person speaking is saying. Everytime you try not to offend someone in a situation because the outcome you want may be affected you are using the techniques in this book. Scary innit?